I have been dating my partner for about a year and a half now and I’ve noticed that we keep stumbling over the same annoying obstacle.

When we have usually have a conversation, it’s usually consisting around these following topics:
1. Family, education and/or career life and experiences
2. Nerd related topics
3. Current events, weather, news

(*4. Love, feelings, relationship-related)

The 2nd topic is what I’d like to address. As a fellow nerd myself, I don’t feel guilty or ashamed about expressing my nerdy likes and interests with my partner or my partner in return ranting on to me. It has however become an go-to clutch for me when I’m worried about talking seriously with my Partner about our relationship and improving ourselves and sharing our feelings about ‘us’. Number 4 topic comes into mind.

We have been long term friends prior to us dating, so now I am at the point that it’s starting to become a tad bothersome that my partner jumps to conversation points 1,2,3 when I am only interested in hearing/sharing 4.

I have been direct and started talking about 4, but then my partner ether becomes deathly silent or changes the subject back to 1,2 and 3. I read out-loud a few paragraphs from “Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus” book, however my partner seems uninterested in the content.

I’ve also tried to relate our nerdy conversations to love in some way, hoping it will help. Just today we had an interesting discussion on Cat Woman dating Batman VS. Wonder Women dating Batman, it helped me slightly understand my partner’s view points but it didn’t answer my personal question about how my partner felt when we first went out or knew I was ‘right’ for ‘us’.

If anything, it may just be a going-up phase, after all we both are notorious for acting immature.

With that said, I believe that if we cannot truly communicate our feelings then I feel like I’m dating a mere ‘friend’ and not somebody I’d truly like to spend the rest of my life with.

If you have any suggestions for me or have an alike scenario, I’d deeply appreciate your feed back. Thank you.